Having taught 2nd grade for 7 years, reading these articles came as surprising for me initially. In the 2nd grade, girls are not that shy at sharing their feelings. I believe that the security blanket that guards girls from sharing naturally gets unleashed as a defense as the girls get older and have more personal experiences. They aren’t sure what is allowed to be shared and what they should keep to themselves. In this respect, it is wonderful that there are people such as Annette Henry who encourage teenagers to feel comfortable to share openly and provide them the opportunity to do so. I remember a few years ago, I did have one student who was extremely quiet. She rarely voiced her opinion in class, and she was an observer, always allowing others to take the lead in discussions. Towards the end of the year, she started raising her hand during discussions. I tried to contain my surprise and immediately called on her. Obviously, she needed time to feel trust and confidence in her immediate world. She needed to know that she was not going to be putting herself at risk by sharing. I respect the time it took Miriam to open up. Sometimes people are not as easy to crack as others. People need time to feel self-confident. This experience taught me the value of patience as a teacher.
Regardless of gender, the relationship that you form with a child will be a first step to open any open door. We have a 3rd grade African American girl at my school who has discovered this year that she is behind all of her peers in learning. That realization, of the possibility of failing in front of her friends, or getting critiqued by the teacher for things she is unable to do, has paralyzed her. She gets herself up in the morning due to her mother going to work early. Alexis decides when she wants to go to school. She has a tutor who she works with twice a week and she shared privately with her tutor her new understandings. She shared how she “planned to be absent from school next week because [she] didn’t want to take the End of Quarter tests.” Her tutor shared this insight with me but was very concerned with the way that we handled the situation because it was important that Alexis knew she could continue to confide in her tutor. This experience taught me the value of relationships in teaching and how they are key in building the trust and opportunity to get to really know a child.
Another example these articles reminded me of was the story of the teacher, Erin Gruell, and her “Freedom Writers,” that was made into a movie. Those students were given a piece of paper and told that they could write whatever they want without the fear of being scrutinized and when they thought their ideas were completely private, they came clean, their writing somewhat like poetry in it’s nature. In my opinion, writing can be a form of private discussion without the concern over getting in front of an audience. In Henry’s article she points out the very important point that school can create a fear of public speaking, especially if they have to speak a language which is not their primary tongue. Writing provides them the opportunity to share without the fear of getting ridiculed. Since “school” can be that one factor that continues to keep students from sharing openly, I loved the project that Jeanine Staples began after school. Since students did not associate their writing with “school” and being evaluated, they were more openly expressing themselves…especially when they were reinventing themselves as authors.
This taught me the important lesson of letting students create for themselves a new author, that is separate from their own academic personality. I have learned the value of freedom when it comes to writing in the classroom. Students need to be able to feel free to become who they want to be, and write as they want to. As a teacher, I need to give them that freedom.
-- Carrie Brown
Comments (7)
I agree that before we were required to have so many assessments several time a a year it used to be hard to tell if a student was shy or academically weak. With all the DIBELS and universal screenings and progress monitoring for response to intervention, we have a wealth of information. Not to mention teacher observations which are gathered daily. This should give some indication in figuring out shynesss/frustration.
Before differentiation, teaching reading was conducted most of the time with the whole group method. I beleive that until differentiation and small group occur and adults take the time to listen, we will not know the needs of our students academically and emotionally. They need their voices to be heard but they need the opportunity to speak up. The shy students will never do this in a whole group environment.
Posted by Karen Gold | June 14, 2011 8:18 AM
Posted on June 14, 2011 08:18
Carrie,
I like the point you make about building trusting relationships with our students. I also think this is crucial in getting children to feel as though they can speak up and speak out. I often worry, especially now that I am teaching fourth grade, that a student will tell me something that I need to pass along to administrators or even the Department of Social Services. Then what? If I have to do that, I will have lost that student's trust forever. I feel like that we walk a fine line and am so thankful that I have not, as yet, been placed in a situation like this. We work so hard to build those relationships and I hope that I never have to break a child's trust and then leave them feeling completely "voiceless".
Posted by Leslie Rothenberger | June 14, 2011 10:30 AM
Posted on June 14, 2011 10:30
I, too, was reminded of the Freedom Writers. They were, it appeared, equally dysfunctional in school. It took someone like Erin Gruwell, someone so different from the students in her school, someone whom they (fellow teachers, administration, AND students) all thought “would not make the grade” with those students, to actually listen to those same students, to hear what they were saying, and to give them the opportunity to discover their voice.
In my kindergarten class those struggling students are already so skilled at “disappearing” into the group that, if we don’t pay attention to what is going on, we won’t even realize that we are not encouraging them to share their thoughts.
Teachers have so many different things they must “pay attention to” that sometimes I go home with my head spinning – then, when someone says to me “Oh, how sweet – you teach kindergarten!” I want to explode!
Posted by Marlee Wright | June 14, 2011 12:35 PM
Posted on June 14, 2011 12:35
I also get really excited when reserved students become willing to share with the class. Like Miriam, as a child, I was content to let others lead the conversations. You are right. We need to be patient and allow students time to become comfortable enough to participate. Unfortunately, my daughter had a teacher in the past who threatened a parent/teacher conference if she did not start raising her hand to ask questions. That action only made her more nervous and less confident. You sound like a great teacher. I'm so glad you see the value of a trusting relationship between a teacher and student. It breaks my heart to think about how many students feel like Alexis and try to avoid school.
Posted by Holly Lawson | June 14, 2011 7:19 PM
Posted on June 14, 2011 19:19
Leslie,
You will inevitably one day have to cross that line. But if you do, you will KNOW that you made the right decision and that you have the student's best interest in mind. Good luck with that!
-- Carrie
Posted by Carrie Brown | June 14, 2011 7:55 PM
Posted on June 14, 2011 19:55
Holly! I can't believe a teacher did that to your daughter! That is totally unacceptable! Please tell me that you went in there and threw a fit! ;)
I know that as a teacher, I'm probably going to be the WORST parent. I have high expectations!!!
Posted by Carrie Brown | June 14, 2011 7:58 PM
Posted on June 14, 2011 19:58
What a lovely post, Carrie. Nice integration of the issues with some relevance from your own experiences. I think classrooms should absolutely be a place where students can reinvent themselves, and I am glad that you are a teacher who supports such "re-authoring!"
Posted by Dr. Jackson | June 16, 2011 11:02 AM
Posted on June 16, 2011 11:02